I was getting my son’s haircut at a salon. He did a great job, and afterward the hairstylist gave him a lollipop. She gave him a butterscotch one, which I have always hated. Inwardly, I was very upset at this lady. How dare she give my son the worst flavor lollipop! Did she not want to waste a good one (strawberry or watermelon) on my son!?
After she gave him the lollipop, she squatted down to his level and gave him a big smile and said, “Butterscotch is my favorite flavor. I got that one just for you!”
Once she said that, I was simultaneously upset at myself and touched by the woman’s thoughtfulness. She had chosen her favorite for my son. I had caught myself being self-focused again! I needed to understand that my best and someone else’s best may be two totally different things.
I also realized that people are going to do things for me and my family with the best intentions, and I need to stop looking through my own narrative to really understand where they are coming from. I feel sometimes that we have become Kings and Queens of our own precious worlds. But, I don’t want that! I would rather be a servant of God than a Queen of my own opinions.
My opinions are meaningless! I could have told that hairstylist to give my son a different flavor lollipop, but I would have robbed her of giving her best to my son. I want her best, not the stupid strawberry lollipop. I pray that God will allow me to see past my viewpoint and to the good intentions of others!
“A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.”
– Proverbs 18:2 (NIV)
“Lord, help me to look beyond my own opinions and into the heart of others. I want get over my selfishness, so I may catch people giving their best. Father, help me today to encourage another person’s viewpoints. I want to let her know that her opinions are so important and precious. Bring to mind a person that I can encourage today . . .”
Alisa Hope Wagner