The danger of being in ministry of any capacity is that we find more joy in it than we find in our husbands. At times I find myself giving all my time, energy, words of affirmation and encouragement to others, leaving my husband in the dust.
As I gazed into my soon to be husband’s eyes in front of God and all those people, I repeated those words of love and devotion: “in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad…” I don’t remember saying the following stipulation: “as long as blogging, ladies retreats, Facebook, twittering, or going out with my friends for coffee don’t get in the way.”
In a technology-driven age, could all that’s available possibly be used as a device of the evil one to tear marriages apart? I’ve seen concern in my husband’s eyes, and the Lord is speaking to me about this. When I choose to sit at the computer to write that “all important” email, post or Facebook message, over spending time with my husband, his spirit is crushed.
The Bible says that the devil roars about like a lion, seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8) and that he is subtle. Oh! so subtle! He has been known to appear as an angel of light (2 Cor. 11:14). Let us be careful that we do not let our ministry to other women leave our dear husbands in the dust. Everything should be done decently and in order.
We need to remember that our husbands are our first priority; they are even above ministering to other women. What do our husbands need from us? They need our affirmation, honor, devotion, attention, cheering, compliments, admiration, time. . . our very best! I know what you are thinking. . . . I’m not super-women!
By the end of the day, I have given all my attention/affection/time away to kids, house work, blogging, you name it! How could I possibly do all those things? God does not call us to be super-women, but super-dependent upon Him. This may mean turning down a great opportunity to go out with friends, read another “best-seller,” write that important post, send that vital email, attend that ladies retreat, or twitter your life!
Your life is right in front of you, and he is waiting for your attention. He is vitally important. All the other stuff can wait. Have you been leaving your husband in the dust lately? I have been guilty of it. If so, brush off the dirt. It may mean turning off the TV, the computer, the phone and spending time with your hubby.
“…and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
– Ephesians 5:33 (KJV)
“Lord, I ask You to develop in me a life of balance. Please help me to see the need that is right in front of me, my husband. Help me to respect and reverence him, even above my ministry to other women. Show me right now what I can do to minister to my husband….”